If we haven’t spoken for 18 months then this is for you.

I do not know what you have been told. But what I do know is that it is not the full truth. I’m not saying that you’ve been told blatant lies, but there are certainly things that will have been omitted in the version of the story that you heard.

I’m more than happy to fill in some of those blanks but I can’t do that because you haven’t spoken to me. If you want to know anything, go ahead and ask.

I used to have so many friends and acquaintances through church. They are the ones who have been most distant. I don’t know why you have all found it so difficult to speak to me, but I do know that it’s certainly an easier life for you by not having to acknowledge the pain and hurt.

It’s not very compassionate though is it? Burying your head in the sand and not reaching out to someone who was struggling, just to make things easier for yourself?

Is it because you are afraid to cause offence or be accused of discrimination? What about standing up for what you believe in. Forget about the “complications” in my case and think about the actual basic behaviour. Dishonestly. Deceit. Cheating. Betrayal. Disrespect. Disregard. Are you OK with those traits? Is this how you want your friend to treat you? Would you want to be labelled as those things? Would you still ignore these behaviours if the “complications” didn’t exist? That shouldn’t make a difference to how you treat people.

Morals are standards of behaviour, principles of right and wrong. They are what our parents instil in us from an early age. We aren’t taught that some people can be wrong but others can be right (or even a lesser type of wrong) because of their gender, race, sexual orientation, religion or disabilities. So many people are campaigning for equality at the minute but how is it unbiased if some people are more equal than others?

Maybe you’ve already made up your mind but if you’ve taken the time to read this and any of it has made you think then perhaps things don’t sit right with you after all.